Muslimnista. org | By Fatemeh Fakhraie | Posted on 13 October 2008
An Open Letter to White Non-Muslim Western Feminists
We need to talk.
Having the economic privilege to spend a few summers in Cairo or to study abroad in Dubai does not give you the authority to speak about Middle Eastern culture.
Dating a Saudi guy does not give you the authority to speak about Islam. Or about Muslim men.
Knowing some Muslim women through work or as friends does not give you the authority to speak for them or the rest of Muslim women.
There are those of us who suffer. But don’t speak of us as victims if we are not dead. Don’t deny the agency with which we become survivors and active shapers of our lives. Don’t ignore the fighting we do for ourselves.
We can—and do—speak for ourselves. So stop speaking for us.
I notice a lot of condescension and arrogance when you talk to us or about us. Let me be clear: you do not know more about us than we know about ourselves, our religion, our cultures, our families, or the forces that shape our lives. You do not know what’s best for us more than we do.
So please check yourselves.
Being an ally does not mean speaking for us, making choices for us, or figuring out what’s best for us. It means supporting and defending the choices we make and the voices we use.
If we want help, and ask for it, then do only what you’re asked. Don’t invent new ways to characterize us as oppressed or agitate for the solving of problems that aren’t pressingly important. Case in point: if we want better divorce laws in a particular country, don’t agitate for the abolishing of mandatory clothing policies.
If you can’t do that, then don’t bother. It’s better to just stay out of our way. Passing judgment on and mischaracterizing our choices, our religion, or ways of life does us more harm than good; with friends like that, who needs enemies?
Sincerely,
An Islamic feminist who has met one-too-many white non-Muslim feminists that assume that they know better.
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Dear Arshad Zaman,
I like this article. (But there are better out there, of a similar nature if this is a topic that interests you!) However, some of your more avid readers (such as myself) would like to hear your personal reflections on world events, not just links to other peoples’. What do you say? How about doing an original post one of these days?
Sincerely and seriously,
sushisneeze
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Dear Sushi
Thank you for your encouragement. Yes, I am interested in this topic and would love to be educated on other articles. I also take your point about the need to do an original post, and hope to get around to it soon. I am delighted however that my one avid reader hasn’t given up on me!
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Dear Arshad Zaman,
Thank you for your response. Would it help prompt an original post if you felt, perhaps, that your (one – though surely not only) avid reader was very much on the verge of giving up on you? If so, I would happily serve in that capacity!
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